{"id":2147,"date":"2021-04-21T04:21:12","date_gmt":"2021-04-21T04:21:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/?p=2147"},"modified":"2025-04-14T18:22:21","modified_gmt":"2025-04-14T18:22:21","slug":"stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Stainless Steel Sex Toys Myths, Busted"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>If you haven\u2019t already gotten your hands, hiney, member, or muff on a stainless steel sex toy, you\u2019re late to the Pleasure Party.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>No shade intended\u2014in all likelihood you haven\u2019t yet pressed \u201corder\u201d because you\u2019ve got some preconceived notions about what stainless steel toys are and are not. To help you sort facts from fiction, we put together this list of 8 stainless steel sex toy myths.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Trust, once you read these nuggets you\u2019ll want to buy yourself a plus 1 and to hit up the party ASAP.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted-02.jpg\" alt=\"stainless steel sex toy myths busted\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: Silicone is the *only* body-safe sex toy material<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>While it\u2019s true that medical-grade silicone\u2014that\u2019s the kind of silicone all&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand vibrators\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/le-wand-products\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Le Wand vibrators<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;are made from, BTW\u2014<em>is<\/em>&nbsp;body-safe, it\u2019s&nbsp;<em>u<\/em>ntrue that that\u2019s the *only* body-safe material!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As clinical sexologist, Dr. Megan Stubbs&nbsp;Ed.D, author of the forthcoming book&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.simonandschuster.com\/books\/Playing-Without-a-Partner\/Megan-Stubbs\/9781627783040\"><em>Playing Without a Partner: A Singles&#8217; Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness<\/em><\/a>&nbsp;puts it, \u201cIf it\u2019s safe to cook on, it\u2019s likely safe to put in your body.\u201d Other body-safe materials include: Pyrex, borosilicate glass, ABS plastic, and (drum roll please!) stainless steel!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The most obvious benefit of using a body-safe sex toy is that because you can get it completely clean, the risk of introducing infection-causing bacteria to your bits is basically zero. (Bacterial vaginosis who??).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another benefit is that they\u2019re so much easier to share with a partner you\u2019re not fluid-bonded with. A quick rinse with warm water and fragrance-free soap between uses is all you need to make this toy totally shareable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted-04.jpg\" alt=\"stainless steel sex toy myths busted\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Another option is to spray on a sex toy cleaner (like the&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Intimate Organic Toy Cleaner\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/intimate-organic-toy-cleaner.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Le Wand Intimate Organic Toy Cleaner<\/a><\/strong>) and wipe it clean with an old Tee.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou can also pop the steel toy in the top rack of your dishwasher and run it without dish detergent,\u201d says Stubbs. (Depending on your dish detergent, the fragrances can be too harsh for your delicate internal tissues).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: Stainless steel sex toys can\u2019t vibrate, so they don\u2019t feel good<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Whether they&#8217;re buzzy or rumbly, vibrators can be an&nbsp;<em>ahhmazing<\/em>&nbsp;addition to solo, partnered, and multi-partnered play. In fact, one&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/19419899.2019.1679230\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">2019 study<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;of vibrator use is overall greater sexual well-being. But that doesn\u2019t mean vibrators are the only feel-good addition to the bedroom\u2014they\u2019re not.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A vibrator alternative, stainless steel toys can be used to fulfill feelings of wet, warmth, or cold, as well as sensations of thrusting, fullness, sliding, gliding, and pressing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because of this, pleasure-seekers who find vibration annoying, itchy, or irritating (more common than you might think!) may actually enjoy these non-motorized toys more than their buzzy counterparts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More than just being&nbsp;<em>different<\/em>&nbsp;than vibrators, stainless steel toys are&nbsp;<em>superior<\/em>&nbsp;in certain instances. For example, \u201cthe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/g-spot-in-women\/\">G-zone<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"prostate\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/prostate-play\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">prostate<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;both tend to respond well to pressure, motion, and the sensation of fullness which is more easily achieved with a steel wand than a vibrator,\u201d explains queer sex educator Andy Duran, the education director for&nbsp;Good Vibrations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He explains: The often-curved shape of the toy allows you to more easily apply the requisite pressure, while the weight and density inherent to steel toys makes it better at delivering consistent firm touch than toys made out of softer materials (like silicone, for example).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: Stainless steel sex toys are for internal stimulation only<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, stainless steel sex toys are exceptional at delivering the kind of pressure that internal hot-spots respond well to.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when combined with lube, the sensation of the smooth steel on external genitals can be incredibly enjoyable for some, too, says Duran. The clitoris and taint in particular, according to him, have the capacity to respond well to the sensation of swiping, pressing, swirling, and even tapping from the toy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Genitals aside, stainless steel wands also stunt-double as massagers, providing pleasurable pressure along tight back, trap, and butt muscles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: All stainless steel wands feel the same&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Kgjkth6BRRY\">Cue Gwen Stefani<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;because saying all sex toys made from stainless steel feel the same is as b-a-n-a-n-a-s as saying French fries, mashed potatoes, and tater tots all taste the same because they\u2019re made from potatoes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The shape, texture, length, girth, and weight of the stainless steel toy all impact how the toy will feel externally or internally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted-03.jpg\" alt=\"stainless steel sex toy myths busted\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Swerve\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-swerve.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Swerve<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;which features a string of rippled beads, will feel much different than the&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Bow\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-bow.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Bow<\/a><\/strong>, which features a bulbous end followed by a swirling string of texture instead. Even the&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Arch\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-arch.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Arch<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Contour\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-contour.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Contour<\/a><\/strong>, which are similar in shape will feel different due to their different girths.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To pick the toy for you, Stubbs recommends thinking about what sensations you already know you enjoy and finding a steel toy that delivers a similar sensation. Enjoy feeling stuffed to the brim? Check out the\u00a0<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Contour Stainless Steel Sex Toy\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-contour.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Contour<\/a><\/strong>. Love <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/anal-beads\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>anal beads<\/strong><\/a>? Buy the\u00a0<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Swerve Stainless Steel Sex Toy\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-swerve.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Swerve<\/a><\/strong>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: You *don\u2019t* need lube with stainless steel sex toys&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Stainless steel may move over your body more smoothly than silicone toys, but store-bought lubricant can still enhance the sensation. Lube increases the ease with which a toy can slide in-and-out, or glide side-to-side, says Stubbs. (Related:&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Lube Guide\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/lube\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Scoop On Lube<\/a><\/strong>).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Best Part: Steel toys is that they can be used with&nbsp;<em>all<\/em>&nbsp;kinds of lubricants, including silicone-based lubricant which is superior for anal play!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMassage candles&nbsp;and&nbsp;arousal oil&nbsp;are also a great addition to play with stainless steel toys,\u201d she adds.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: Stainless steel sex toys are *only* solo sex toys<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Due to the fact that they\u2019re not harnessable, there\u2019s a myth that stainless steel dildos are for solo sex only. But that hodge-podge is that: myth. Stainless steel sex toys can absolutely be used on a partner\u2014in way more ways than one.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYou might use the wand on your partner internally while you pleasure them externally with your mouth,\u201d says Stubbs. \u201cOr you might have your partner use a metal wand on your butt while you pleasure yourself.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even using the wand as a massage tool on your partner can be incredibly erotic. When paired with a massage oil you can use it as you might use a massage stone to work through back knots,\u201d says Duran. Hello, Mx. Romance!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: ALL stainless steel sex toys are anal-safe<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It is not the&nbsp;<em>material<\/em>&nbsp;that determines whether or not something is anal-safe, it\u2019s the&nbsp;<em>shape<\/em>! In order for a toy to be anal safe it needs to have a stopping point that keeps the toy from getting lost in the body.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s the reason <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/butt-plugs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">butt plugs<\/a><\/strong> (like the\u00a0<strong><a title=\"b-Vibe Snug Plug\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/snug-plug.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">b-Vibe Snug Plug<\/a><\/strong>, for example) have a carrot-top head, the flared base secures the plug outside the body. While stainless steel butt plugs will usually sport a similar stopping point, stainless steel wands that are anal-safe sport a significant curve instead.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cFor C-shaped or S-shaped wands to be anal-safe, it needs to have a prominent curve that is more significant than the curve of the anal canal,\u201d says Duran.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anal-safe Le Wand steel products include:&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Bow Stainless Steel Sex Toy\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-bow.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Bow<\/a><\/strong>,&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Le Wand Hoop Stainless Steel Sex Toy\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-hoop.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Hoop<\/a><\/strong>, and&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Swerve Stainless Steel Sex Toy\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel\/le-wand-swerve.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Swerve<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Myth: Stainless steel is only good for room temperature play<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Confession time: I\u2019ve never heard of room temperature play, nor have I ever heard anyone spew this nonsense. But (!!) I wanted to make sure to share that one of the reasons stainless steel sex toys are so darn wonderful is that metal holds temperature. That means these Babes can be used for temperature play.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/stainless-steel-sex-toy-myths-busted-05.jpg\" alt=\"stainless steel sex toy myths busted\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The act of intentionally using different temperatures to ignite your senses, temperature play can bring a sense of adventure into the bedroom. (See More: The Ultimate Guide to&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"temperature play\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/temperature-play\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Temperature Play<\/a><\/strong>).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stubbs says one of her favorite things is to \u201cdunk a steel wand in a cup of warm water before bringing the warmth to [her] body.\u201d While I prefer the sensation of rubbing a steel wand on my clit (with lube!) after it\u2019s been in the freezer for a few hours.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whether you go up or down a few degrees, do your bits a solid and check the temperature on your inner forearm first.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Still have more questions on stainless steel toys? Check out this&nbsp;<a title=\"Stainless steel sex toys\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/stainless-steel-sex-toys\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Stainless Steel Sex Toy<\/a>&nbsp;Guide. Or better yet,&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/le-wand-stainless-steel-sex-toys\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>spend some time perusing the collection<\/strong><\/a><strong>!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you haven\u2019t already gotten your hands, hiney, member, or muff on a stainless steel sex toy, you\u2019re late to the Pleasure Party.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2148,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31,24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2147","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-masturbation-mythbusting","category-product-knowledge"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2147","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2147"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2147\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3754,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2147\/revisions\/3754"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2148"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2147"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2147"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lewandmassager.com\/pleasure-guide\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2147"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}