Your sacral chakra is the roof of your living body. Aligning and cleansing your chakras is a key element of tapping into your sensual power and sexual healing, and if you are a survivor of sexual assault, I highly suggest this as your first step.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our root chakras are out-of-balance from any abuse and trauma we went through, and in experience, skipping this step will only set you back and have to go back to it later on. Shadow work is as important as light work. IMO, more so. Here is a list of things that can help you connect to your Root:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Crystal Pleasure Tools<\/a> such as Yoni Eggs<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Kegels<\/a>, with or without Yoni Eggs<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 V-steam<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Kundalini Yoga<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Tantric Massage<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Intentional and Tantric Masturbation<\/a> & Self Pleasure<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Any movement that makes you sweat. Sweat is the fire element, and fire is connected to our sacral energies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Scrying with bodily fluids like moon blood and semen (this is pretty advanced, so stay in your lane with this)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every spiritualist should study their birth chart. Focus on your Venus (how you love), your Mars (how you take action), and your Moon (how you feel). Bonus points for your Lilith!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Working with crystals is my favorite part of my craft. As a Capricorn sun, my tether to the Earth element is pretty damn strong. I used a Labradorite Yoni Egg whilst training at the dungeon during my first year as a Pro. When I would have a session that was physically exerting, particularly impact sessions, I remember clenching my muscles tight around the magical egg with the swing of my flogger and feeling energies from my sacred space out. Truly something you need to experience to understand fully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Rose Quartz \u2014 The Universal Lover<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Smokey Quartz \u2014 The Grounder<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Carnelian \u2014 The Energizer<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Rhodonite \u2014 The Healer<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Orange Calcite \u2014 The Joyful<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Moonstone \u2014 The Intuitive<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Amazonite \u2014 The Earth Connector<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Rose \u2014 The worldly mother flower of love. Red are the ones for love and lust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Cinnamon \u2014 A staple in my practice and a fav scent\/taste of mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Passion Flower \u2014 Passion is in the word… I mean…<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Mugwort and Wormwood \u2014 The sisters! These two babes clear out EVERYTHING. Use this instead of sage and other closed-practice smudging items.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Hibiscus \u2014 Reminds me of islands and the beautiful landscapes and people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dressing your candle with the above flowers\/herbs, placing them in a vial, and carrying them in your mojo bag, scattered around your altar (beds count as altars!) are all ways to use these precious ingredients. Add any of these beautiful herbs to a bath, and try goat’s milk and coconut water as a base.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ah, Mythology. Truly the most interesting part of the lore is the fantastical stories of those set higher than us mortals. To remind you, I was an awkward fat kid who didn’t ever fathom having connections to these stories of flawless and powerful beings, but damned if I didn’t fully enjoy the tales. I may not work with these Deities on a regular basis, but I am in my most recent efforts since they have the reputations to help with love and\/or fertility work…but do your research thoroughly! Make sure you’re in your lane when working with Deities. You just always make an offer before asking for anything, the Gods do not do greedy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Innana\/Ishtar<\/strong> \u2014 The First recorded Dominatrix Goddess who formed a modern society in present-day Syria. I always recommend the book Art and History of the Dominatrix by Annie Nomis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Osh\u00fan <\/strong>\u2014 The Yoruba Goddess of the Rivers. She loves the color Yellow, Gold, and honey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aphrodite <\/strong>(Venus) <\/strong>\u2014 When this Goddess was caught on Olympus cheating on her God-husband Hephaestus, she was unbothered when caught in a net along with her lover, Ares. In fact, before she left Olympus, she gave herself to the God Hermes for flattering her during the whole ordeal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hathor <\/strong>\u2014 The Egyptian Aphrodite. Hathor possesses the ability to manipulate any man or woman, whether they be mortal, god, or beast, to do her bidding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Freya <\/strong>\u2014 Norse Goddess of Love, Sex, War, and Death. She was raised by Witches and thought to be “The Party Girl” amongst the pantheon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Xochiquetzal <\/strong>\u2014 The Aztec Goddess of sexual love, work, flowers, and plants. In some areas, she was identified with Chalchiuhtlicue, the Goddess of fresh water.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ixchel <\/strong>\u2014 The Mayan Goddess of the Moon and Love. Sounds like moon blood would be a good element to work with when conjuring her!<\/p>\n\n\n\n In a world where love spells are the most bought, searched, and sought-after, I would like to encourage you to turn that onto yourself. Seek for yourself, close your eyes, and imagine that the other person you see in the distance running towards you — is you — and you cannot be more excited about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your intent is more sexual than sensual, it is suggested to maintain a level of abstinence. The gods are more willing to listen to us when we suffer for them, and not cumming when you want too is a cruel form of suffering. I have been celibate for two years, and honestly, even when I tried to replace the sex I was missing from my abuser, it just never panned out. You would think that an international pornstars performer-husband would be an easy pull.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It’s easy come easy go to your spirit guides, trust them even it pisses you off and leaves you tight and dry. On the other hand, orgasms are a powerful manifestation tool, and if you have the experience in harnessing them in your practice, then, by all means, use them. More so- you can work around to nix genitalia out if you have an uneasy relationship with them. This is your experience and trying different things to find out what works for you is a huge part of sex magick<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lastly, charm your makeup brushes before applying makeup and say, “I apply for me and only me, with this brush I attract times 3.” Wear something powerful when doing your self-work… not sexy, but powerful. Everything else may be about money, except sex… that’s about power. Claim yours on your own terms.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If you grew up adjacent to any religious institution, you were either completely enthralled with the idea of sex because it sounded so off-limits or put off by it, thanks to the bullshit lessons the church taught you. 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Earthy Delights: Crystals and Herbs<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Flowers & Herbs:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The Idols<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Final Thoughts<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n