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Ask Eva June Survey Findings on LGBTQ+ People’s Sexual Experiences

10 July 2020

Happy Pride month, everyone! This pride month we are reminded of the origins of Pride as a riot lead by Black and brown queer and trans people against police brutality, and the continued violence perpetrated by this institution (among others) against those within our community.

There’s no doubt that representation can be powerful in helping queer and trans people navigate their identities without shame. Seeing yourself reflected can be incredibly affirming and showing queer and trans people having healthy relationships and fulfilling lives can be life-changing. Nonetheless, media representation isn’t enough to support the health and wellbeing of LGBTQ+ people, especially Black, Indigenous, and people of color. Dismantling these systems and institutions is required for all people to be safe and affirmed. It is imperative that we work for these things simultaneously. While we focused this month’s #AskEva on media representation, but want to emphasize that this is only a small piece in the fight for equality.

With regard to media representation, previous research has focused largely on the impacts of media on queer and trans people’s relationships with their sexual identity. For this month’s #AskEva, we wanted to take this a step further and explore how media’s depictions of LGBTQ+ people might influence our relationships with our sexuality and our sexual experiences.

We had 296 responses to this month’s survey. Most of this month’s survey respondents were women (80.3%), 5.5% were men, 6.9% of respondents were non-binary, and 7.3% of individuals were non-binary women, non-binary men, genderqueer, demigirl, and trans masc. 8.1% (22) of participants identified as transgender.

Participants of the Ask Eva June Survey on LGBTQ+ media depiction

Additionally, the majority of the same was between the age of 18 and 24 (59.3%), followed by 25-35-year-olds at 24%.

With regards to sexual orientation, participants were given the opportunity to choose all the labels that felt right with their identity, as well as the option to write in particular labels beyond those that were listed. With this, we had a diverse range of responses!

Sexual orientation of participants from the Ask Eva June Survey

22% of respondents choose multiple labels to describe their identity (ie bisexual, pansexual, and queer). Some of the most commonly used labels, either by themselves or among others, were bisexual (used by 30.2% of participants), and queer (used by 22.5% of participants). Additionally, while asexual and demisexual were not originally listed in the questionnaire, 11 participants wrote these labels in. Moving forward, we will include these among our sexual orientation categories.

Something further to note, the category “straight” was included among identity labels, which was chosen by 10 participants along with other queer identities. This may be among individuals in relationships with male partners, or individuals who are continuing to explore their identity. However, there were 86 participants who chose the label by itself, while the study was not intended for non-LGBTQ+ individuals.

For this survey, participants were asked about the influence of mainstream media (ie movies, television, music) as well as new media (social networking sites and online platforms) and how these may have influenced their sexual experiences.

Let’s start with mainstream media. Respondents were almost split down the middle with regards to what degree they felt their sexual experiences had been influenced by mainstream media portrayals of both the LGBTQ+ community and individuals’ specific gender and/or sexual identity.

How the Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Affected by Mainstream Media

With regards LGBTQ+ community at large, 46.1% said they were somewhat affected, but 45% said they were not at all affected. 8.9% said that they were extremely affected.

Similarly, for representation of individuals’ specific gender and/or sexual identity, 40.6% responded that they were somewhat affected, while 37.6% indicated they were not at all impacted.

How the Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Affected by Mainstream Media

However, more than respondents’ sexual experiences were more impacted by depictions of their specific experiences, with twice as many indicating that they were significantly affected (21.8%) compared to the proportion significantly impacted by representations of the LGBTQ+ community at large .

Participants were also asked to what degree they felt their sexual experiences were impacted positively or negatively by mainstream media portrayals. Most participants (64.5%) felt that their experiences had either been not at all positively impacted, or only slightly. Another 24.3% said they had been impacted somewhat, while only 11.2% had been positively impacted a lot or extremely.

How Positively Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Impacted by Mainstream Media

When asked to expand on any positive examples of mainstream media’s influence on their sex lives, many participants described how representation gave them a sense of permission and validity. Several cited Callie Torres’ character from Grey’s Anatomy, and TV shows like Feel Good and Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

Some examples of positive sexual influence were increased confidence “the L Word Generation Q has really hot gay sex scenes and rewatching them gives me ideas and can make me feel more confident” and positive portrayals of consent, “most of the depictions that I’ve seen of LGBTQ+ sexual encounters are strongly rooted in mutual consent and respect. In Indian media, most sexual content is hetero and has either overt or subvert tones of non-consent.”

One participant described the particular impact of the television show Transparent: “shows like transparent, making it easier to see a life where I am able to give/receive pleasure, without having to always worry about the bits and pieces”.

In terms of negative influences of mainstream media, while most participants cited a lack of positive impact, most didn’t find that they had impacted their sexual experience negatively either.

How Negatively Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Impacted by Mainstream Media

63.8% felt that it either didn’t negatively impact their sexual experiences at all, or only slightly, while 19.1% were impacted somewhat and 17.1% were a lot or extremely.

However, when given the opportunity to share further, respondents provided many examples of the ways that mainstream media had negatively influenced their experience of their sexuality. Many participants described how queer women were over hypersexualized and fetishized within the male gaze. Mainstream porn was also mentioned as a perpetrator of these harmful ideas.

Other participants described the specific stereotypes related to the sexuality of bisexual individuals, such as promiscuity, an assumption of cheating, or indecisiveness. One participant described how these negatively impacted her sexuality “I think a lot of the narratives around bi women have contributed to instances where I have felt pressured to do certain things, or that I should be more confident with casual sex.”

Participants also mentioned normalization of sexual and relationship violence, such as “portrayals of forced consent and being used for being gay” and “big age gaps are kinda pushed as normal even when you’re underage and grooming is kinda normalized which is not great.”

A lack of representation was also seen as harmful, especially among asexual and trans participants. One participant described: “As a queer and trans masculine latinx person I’ve had a lot of trouble navigating sexual relationships, particularly those I’ve had with cis men. It’s not often I see representation for myself, so often my sexual encounters are coupled with education of my partner(s)”.

New media platforms like YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Tik Tok, etc. have provided a space for queer and trans individuals to share their stories and knowledge in a way that has never been possible before. While online LGBTQ+ creators face different kinds of censorship, the diversity of voices on social media platforms is boundless.

Interestingly, responses to the degree to which participants felt their sexuality had been influenced by new media representations of the LGBTQ+ community were similar to that of mainstream media. Again, over 80% of respondents felt that their sexual experiences were either not at all (43.2% for representations of the LGBTQ community generally, 39.2% for representations of their specific gender/sexual identity) or somewhat (40.5% for community, 41.6% for specific) affected by portrayals of the LGBTQ+ community at large or of their specific gender and/or sexual identity. Approximately 20% of respondents indicated that their sexual experiences were significantly impacted in both cases.

In comparison with mainstream media, a larger proportion of respondents cited new media having a positive impact on their sexual experiences.

How Positively Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Impacted by New Media

With just over half of participants (52%) citing that new media had been somewhat, a lot, or extremely positively influential. In this area, participants described learning from queer educators on new media platforms like YouTube and Instagram, and the increased range of topics covered among queer sex ed, such as kink and sex toys. One respondent noted: “Access to more examples of sw+, body+, sex+, queer-friendly kink accounts has been v validating”.

Some participants also described the openness and inclusivity with which sexuality was being discussed on the platforms, allowing for acceptance within themselves. One participant shared: “teaching that what i feel inside is okay, i don’t have to follow the stereotypical sexuality path predisposed for me”.

Tik Tok was among the platforms cited as being especially validating for individuals identity and sexuality, as described by this participant: “queer TikTok is a gift, and helping me to better understand myself, my sexuality, and to feel more secure in my desires, needs, and body.”

Lastly, the majority (81.7%) of respondents felt that their sexual experiences had not at all been negatively impacted by new media portrayals of the LGBTQ+ community, or only slightly.

How Ask Eva June Survey Participants' Sexual Experiences Were Impacted by New Media

Despite the overall positivity, negative impacts of new media included continued instances of queer and BIPOC women, in one participant’s words: “STOP FETISHIZING BISEXUAL WOMEN. STOP FETISHIZING BLACK WOMEN.”, cisnormativity/transphobia, and an “oversaturation of white and able bodied queer influencers”.

Overall, it is clear that in addition to having an impact on queer and trans individuals’ mental health, wellbeing, and understanding of their identity, media representation can influence one’s sexual experience as well, even if subtle ways. This pride, while we work for queer and trans people to be able to live happy and healthy lives, we should remember that this fight is multi-dimensional. Nuanced media representation is essential for LGBTQ+ people, but so is the ability to live free from violence.

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