Blended Orgasm 101
There are many different kinds of orgasms a vulva owner can have: vaginal, G-spot, anal, A-spot, clitoral, cervical, nipple, etc. But the next-level orgasm that we all want to be signing up for is the blended orgasm!
Learn everything there is to know about blended orgasms, and how to give yourself one (or five).
What is a blended orgasm?
A blended orgasm describes an orgasm that can be achieved through a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. So if you're experiencing a blended orgasm, it means that you're having simultaneous orgasms.
It's exactly what you might experience if a rabbit vibrator or attachment worked with your anatomy.
However, more recent trends in sexology have embraced - and encouraged - us to reframe and expand the understanding of the blended orgasm to include a wider range of internal and external stimulation.
What does a blended orgasm feel like?
Since it's not possible to experience anyone's orgasm but your own, making a generic statement about what a blended orgasm feels like is tough, says sex expert Andrea Barrica, CEO of education platform O.school. "Some people describe their blended orgasms as feeling more intense, deeper, or just as more because there are multiple points of stimulation."
Just be sure to remember that 70 percent of vulva owners need clit stimulation to get off, making the clitoris the MVP of blended orgasms.
How can I have a blended orgasm?
If you've got the G-spot and clitoral orgasm locked down, you're already in great shape! Add biting, nipple tweaking, and even a bit of anal play to increase your odds. If you're new to the blended orgasm game, read on!
Your fingers are a great way to explore your body. Use the fingers of one hand to circle, rub up and down, tap, or even pinch your clitoris. This is totally up to personal preference and there's no right or wrong way to stimulate the clitoris. Do what feels good and stick with it.
Once you've warmed up your clitoris and you feel ready, insert one or two fingers of the other hand inside your vagina. Be sure to use lots of lube to make the sensations more pleasurable.
Curl those fingers up and down in a wave-like pattern, tap them up on the top vaginal wall towards your belly button, or move them in and out quickly. Once again - do what feels good for your body and go with it until you reach orgasm. You can also share these instructions with a partner and have them do it for you.
Clitoral stimulation with your mouth (or by unleashing the Kivin oral sex method) is a great addition, too. It's a super intimate and rewarding experience.
Buddy / Butty up
It's slightly harder to achieve a blended orgasm with a partner as it relies heavily on listening to and understanding each other's bodies. That said, it's definitely possible communication, patience, and a willingness to experiment.
If you and your partner are having penetrative sex with a penis or a strap-on, try the doggy-style position, or a vulva-on-top position, like the cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, or straddle the saddle. These positions make it easier to stimulate other parts of your body while you're being penetrated.
You might even consider adding a snug plug, vibrating anal beads, or a finger or tongue to the rear (analingus, anyone?) to stimulate one of two sensitive rings of nerves: around the entry of your anus or a deeper spot inside your anus called the anterior fornix erogenous zone (also known as your A-spot).
Combining toys or tools that were specifically designed to stimulate multiple pleasure zones in the body is another sure-fire way to experience a blended orgasm.
Shameless plug alert from HYPEBAE: The Le Wand Blend is a luxurious spin on the OG bunny vibrator and makes for a great first sex toy [to achieve blended orgasms]. The double motor provides clitoral stimulation while penetrating you or your partner(s) with a strong vibration.
If you prefer a versatile toy for pinpoint clitoral or G-spot masturbation, how about trying the award-winning Le Wand vibrator. Available as a large or Petite wand, Le Wand vibrators come with a wide variety of speeds to accommodate a gentle or power-hunter preference.
Best Accessories for Blended Orgasms
We've even got weighted silicone attachments that fit snuggly over the head of the wands for intense blended stimulation.
Le Wand Curve Attachment
The Le Wand Curve attachment is perfectly shaped for G-spot and/or A-spot stimulation. It has a sweeping semi-circular shape that is precisely weighted in the bulbous tip, making it firm and especially effective.
When your body is warmed up and ready for penetration, try rubbing the bulbous tip along the top of the vaginal wall, with a little bit of pressure.
Or- since the G-spot responds best to pressure and movement- try one of the vibration modes of the Le Wand Vibrating Massager that replicates a tapping sensation. Blend G-spot play with the external clitoral contact on the attachment an entirely new, mind-blowing sensation.
Le Wand Ripple Attachment
The Le Wand Ripple attachment was designed for the 'traditional blended orgasm' (clitoral and vaginal orgasm). In addition to the external nerve endings of the clitoris that allow the majority of women to orgasm, the first two or three inches into the vagina are the most sensitive.
Ripple creates intense pleasure during “in and out” motion because it features ridges along the insertable portion for intense sensation, while the weight provides a feeling of “fullness” that many women report enjoying. When your body is warmed up and ready for penetration, ease the internal attachment inside and rock it and out. Focus the “ripples” along the top of the vaginal wall.
Go slow or fast- whatever works best for you. Once again, blend the internal sensation with the external clitoral contact to blend pleasure zones and heighten orgasm.
Don’t forget that clitoral vibration during penetrative vaginal sex is a toe-curling, full-body orgasmic experience.
Le Wand Dual Attachment
Le Wand Dual is meant to simultaneously stimulate your internal and external hot spots without much additional movement. That makes this attachment great as a lay-on option, or for letting the attachment and wand work its magic while you or a partner focus on other external zones like the nipples and neck.
Insert the weighted tip into the vagina and massage the clitoris with the external rabbit arm. Move so that the rabbit arm circles the clitoris or press the arm on or around the clit to let the vibrations stimulate your external zones. Remember that the clitoris is most sensitive to vibration, so start exploring this zone with less movement or pressure and work with additional techniques as your body responds to it. The weight of the internal shaft provides a feeling of fullness while using the combined weight and vibration to activate your G-spot.
Final Takeaway on Blended Orgasms
It’s especially amazing if you give your partner a roadmap to directly stimulate the internal erogenous zones like the G-spot and A-spot. Ideal sex positions include doggy style, a woman-on-top variation, starfish, or any other options that allow for clitoral stimulation during penetration.
Keep in mind that the vagina responds most to pressure and movement, while the clitoris is most sensitive to vibration.
Founder, Le Wand Massager