While the use of lube during sex-play may seem like common sense to some, the need for it can bring up feelings of shame for others.
Many women feel that there is something wrong with them if they do not self-lubricate, and their partners see it as a sign that she is not aroused. But vaginal lubrication production is not necessarily the golden sign of arousal.
To Lube or Not to Lube?
There are many reasons women do not produce vaginal lubrication, and yes, lack of arousal is one of them.
Additional reasons are long love-making sessions (where she may start out wet, but does not sustain it), hormonal changes due to postpartum, peri-menopause and menopause, the drying effects of alcohol, OTC and prescription medications (i.e. allergy meds and antidepressants), chemotherapy, high stress, and being “turned off” by their partners.
So, for whatever reason her body does not produce its own, artificial lubrication may be necessary (think eye drops for dry eyes). Lube not only remedies vaginal dryness, but it is an absolute necessity for safe and pleasurable anal penetration since the anus is not self-lubricating.
The use of a pleasure product, such as Le Wand, adds novelty, excitement and stimulating vibration and is a wonderful way to increase lubrication when lack of arousal is the cause of dryness.
To ensure a pleasurable experience, it is recommended to use lube with the internal attachments regardless of the amount of natural lubrication the woman produces.
Additionally, lube can enhance the vibe sensations when Le Wand is used externally on the clitoris. Keep in mind that using lube is about providing a pleasurable experience—its slickness enables smooth penetration and decreases the risk of vaginal irritation and tearing. So regardless of your self-lubricating potential, experiment with what feels best for you.
Types of Lube
The main types of personal lubricants are water-based, silicone, hybrid blends and food grade oils.
Water-based lubricants work well with all types of sex toys, easily wash away, but often become tacky and need to be rewetted or reapplied. Le Wand products are best used with water-based lubricant.
Silicone lubes are long lasting and do not need to be reapplied, but tend to be harder to wash off and will stain sheets or other fabric. It is especially important to note that silicone lubricant should not be used with silicone products- such as the head of Le Wand and the silicone attachments.
Hybrid lubes are a blend of both water-based and silicone. They have the same long-lasting qualities as silicone but are easier to wash off, yet still have a propensity to stain fabrics and the possibility to damage a silicone product.
Oils (such as organic coconut oil) are great for those who want a safe, non-irritating lube for penile or finger penetration, but they can break down the materials of some toys and most condoms.
Pay attention to the label! Many commonly used ingredients can alter the vaginal environment and cause adverse local (and possibly systemic) reactions. Keep in mind that lubes without preservatives go bad faster than those that contain them. If a lube becomes discolored or odorous, it is time to get rid of it.
It is recommended to avoid lubes with these ingredients: Glycerin(e), Propylene Glycol, Nonoxynol 9, Chlorhexidine Gluconate, Petroleum Oils, Polyquaternium-15, Benzocaine, Sugars & Sugar Alcohols, Ureas, and Parabens.
The material that your pleasure tool is made of will determine what type of lube to use. Regardless of the recommended lube, it is important to thoroughly wash it off after use, because lube residue can decrease the life of your toy.
For silicone pleasure products, such as Le Wand, water-based lubes are recommended. The same holds true for PVC toys. The use of silicone and oil-based lubes have a high potential to break down these materials. Glass and stainless products are compatible with all types of lubes (including oils) and most plastics are generally compatible with water-based, silicone and hybrid. But if ever in doubt, use a quality water-based lube. Additionally, you can use a condom over your pleasure product if you are unsure of the effect a certain lube will have on it. Keep in mind, though, to never use oil-based lubes with condoms because it will break them down.
Remember, being well lubricated enhances your sexy time. By using a high-quality, compatible lubricant with your pleasure tools, (even if you naturally self-produce ample amounts) you ensure that you will have an enjoyable experience.
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